With so many thoughts and ideas swirling around, it’s hard to sit down with clarity and focus. But I’ve decided to lean into writing, because everything else I create—videos, posts, reels—will flow from the long-form words I put here. Writing brings my ideas to life.
So here we go.
Somewhere along the way, I lost track of my end-of-year goals and that “great lock-in” plan I started but never got consistent with. I am walking regularly and posting about it. I signed up for group training at Orange Theory, and I’m trying XO Fitness today (it’s literally up the street from my house).
But one question keeps circling in my head: if I’m doing these things, why am I not motivated to focus on my bigger goals—growing my audience on YouTube and Facebook, and earning $25K?
I think it’s because my brain struggles to keep things simple. If I can’t do everything, sometimes I do nothing. Can you relate?
It’s the “all-or-nothing” mindset—something that has shown up in my entrepreneurial journey and honestly, throughout my life. So what can I do? Where do I start?
Well, today I started by simply showing up here to write.
And yes, I got distracted three or four times before I caught myself and said, “Enough!”
Lesson 1: Clear the Path and Remove Distractions
When you decide you’re going to commit to something, the first step is removing distractions that pull you off your game.
For me, the biggest one is picking up my phone “just to check a message.” That tiny moment sends me into a side mission every time. And if my husband sends a Facebook link? Game over. So that’s a hard NO on touching my phone before I start.
That’s why scheduling matters. Everything is easier when I know it has a place on my calendar.
Lesson 2: Time Blocking + Ordering Tasks
I work best when I time block and set aside specific periods for repetitive tasks—checking my bank account, writing gratitude lists, responding to email, making phone calls, writing content, etc.
And even with time blocking, I still need a written list of the order I will do things. My squirrel brain loves to hop around, but that hopping is how unfinished tasks pile up.
So:
✅ Set the time
✅ Set the order
✅ Do one thing at a time
✅ No detours
Lesson 3: The Promise Means Nothing Without the Process
Recently I came across a sermon from Sarah Jakes Roberts, and one point hit me hard:
The goal means nothing without the process.
The promise means nothing if you never do the steps.
We love outcomes. We love dreams.
But the process is what delivers results.
And when you focus on mastering the process, you eventually have no choice but to reach the goal.
Funny thing—right before I turned that sermon on, I was walking in the dark that morning, coaching myself out loud. I was literally saying the same thing.
I was practicing a script to encourage people who want to cultivate a life they love, and I said:
“Cooking isn’t hard. If I follow the recipe, I get the outcome. Good cooking is simply good recipes executed well.”
Then, recently, Brandon’s aunt—who is an amazing cook—said she didn’t learn in her family or in culinary school. She just collected good recipes and repeated them.
Mind. Blown.
In my head, the best cooks were trained by generations or had special skills. Not true. She mastered the process — not magic.
Lesson 4: Your Identity Moves Faster When You Claim It
Another cheat code?
Call yourself what you are becoming.
People who say, “I’m a great cook” believe it—and their brain looks for evidence to prove it true.
Once I made a few great dishes and said out loud, “I can cook,” the identity started to shift.
Act like the person you want to be until you become them.
So here’s who I am:
- I am a great cook.
- I tackle DIY projects.
- I am a writer.
- I am very knowledgeable in finances and I make money easily
- I am organized and focused.
- I keep promises to myself.
- I am in the best shape of my life.
- I have a rich social life.
- I make an impact every day.
- I am a present and attentive mother.
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I have an amazing marriage.
Lesson 5: If You Want the Outcome, Work the Steps
If these are the outcomes I want, what is the process that leads there?
- Try new recipes, repeat the ones that work
- Follow my daily calendar
- Move daily—go walking or group workouts
- Eat planned healthy meals
- Know my friends’ important dates and call them
- Show up authentically and follow God’s direction
- Support Camille with love, presence, and action
- Kiss my husband daily
- Don’t sweat small stuff
- Speak life over him, not complaints
- Create daily intimacy—connection, not just sex
Now imagine I just focused on these steps daily, instead of the heaviness of the big goals.
What would happen?
I’d have no choice but to achieve what I want.
✅ Final Thoughts
You don’t need motivation.
You need process.
Identity follows repetition.
Results follow identity.
And when you focus on the steps instead of the mountain, life becomes lighter, clearer, and simpler.
This is me — creating the life I want, every day.
One step, one recipe, one habit at a time.
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